What is the pre-deployment puzzle you may be thinking well it’s:
Trying to find the balance between not alienating your friends before your husband leaves on deployment, but trying to spend enough time with your husband before he leaves.
It’s not an easy task, especially in the run up to Christmas. I have roughly three weeks before the hub leaves and working full-time and I have my degree assignment due in on the 3rd January.
Most friends usually understand that you won’t be seeing them that much of them, but you will need them a lot whilst he’s gone then won’t see them for a while when he get’s back as you’ll be reacquainting yourselves. But there is always the friends that don’t really get it, and they’re the ones you have to decide if they really are friends. Are they the ones you can call when you’re having a really lonely time, the ones you can pop round to without notice and who will invite you in regardless, and the ones who keep an eye out for you.
If it wasn’t for friends I would have really struggled through my last tour, especially when I did so much over time I got really sick, and I’m hoping that they will be here this time.